But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33
I must admit it. Writing on the subject of settling for less has been a struggle, but one that the Lord hasn’t allowed me to let go of for weeks. You may ask, “Why the struggle?” Well, like peeling an onion, I’ve discovered that on so many levels I have settled for less than what God has for me. You know how your eyes tear up as you peel away the layers of an onion? Sometimes it’s painful to the point of tears when we examine ourselves and the choices we make because we are forced to see our mistakes. If we’re spiritually “healthy,” we will then be accountable for our decisions—no matter how difficult. Recognizing where, what, and how we’re compromising can be the beginning of renewing our minds towards positive life changes, full of lasting joy, unshakable peace, and endless possibilities.
A lot of times we rationalize ourselves out of trusting God’s plan for us by recounting in our minds the number of hours, days, years, or decades we’ve put into someone or something that is clearly not what the Lord has intended for us. For example, I’ve heard women say that they can’t let go of a relationship because they’ve invested too many years into it. If a person has spent a number of years in a dead end relationship, why should she spend another minute in one? Often, women look at the statistics of how hard it is to find a good man and settle. God never intended for us to compromise our core values, beliefs, and spiritual wellness for another person. He wants us to be totally committed and devoted to Him first. When we are anchored in Him, He will send us blessings, and it doesn’t matter what the statistics are.
We all know that settling isn’t just a relationship problem either. We may find ourselves settling for less in our careers, callings, and even total mindset. It may not seem to be a big deal, but it’s deceptive and very dangerous to compromise God’s Word and His divine will for our lives. It always eventually leads us to unrest, unhappiness, and unbelief.
Living for Christ is a journey down a road where we understand that we aren’t living to fulfill our flesh. Instead, we should be on a path to subdue our flesh and feed our spirit, which can only be done by faith, prayer, and Bible study. As Christians, we understand that we are living to bear spiritual fruit. We are allowing ourselves to be vessels and to be used by Him. We can bring Him glory, and we can advance theKingdomofGodby others’ experiencing Christ through whatever avenue that that God has specifically given to you to be a testimony of His love, grace, and mercy.
When we are shortsighted, we fail to see the big picture. Satan wants us to keep our vision narrow, limited in scope and in possibilities. If we allow him to accomplish this, we are doomed. Hosea 4:6 says, “My people perish from a lack of knowledge.” Clearly, no good thing comes when we don’t know who we are and where we are going in Him. Another verse in Proverbs 29:18 says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” We must have vision, and we can find happiness and peace through a relationship grounded in obedience, trust and love.
Are you settling for less than God’s best in any area of your life? That area that you don’t want to think about, you know, that one that you are afraid to touch? Trust God totally, and let Him reveal what you need to let go and how you need to do it. Step out on faith and believe that He wants what’s best for you! When you move on faith, God will open up your understanding and His will for your life. Don’t allow excuses, guilt, or blame to trap you in a state of paralysis. I’ve made the choice to turn areas over to Him where I’ve been settling for less than what God has for me. Will you join me in trusting Him fully and getting all that God has for your life?
We need to accept that “it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture” (Psalm 100:3). He made us, and He knows us. He knows what’s best for us. When we make our own decisions, based on our knowledge, feelings, and desires, we are destined to fail. When we are grounded in His Word, and determined to pray and seek His will, we are destined to reign.